I have to vent/bitch so sorry if post is longer than usual!
So I don't have any kids and this will be my first. In reality I think i could be cool being childless. I am 31 and i think i got scared because i was getting old so i decided this is the right time to bear a child, just one that is all.
So i really am not a child person, i wont abuse kids but i am not the one that just decides to go to the playground and interact with kids.
My husband to be has 2 kids from 2 different women. Now i am a cool person don't care about the past relationships but i do have to say if i interact with your kids we should at least speak. i mean i cant see me dropping my kids off to some strange women that i don't know. but one doesn't feel that way and refuses to speak to me. and by the way she is older than me. go figure.
Now one child resides with us and I take and pick up from school, go to sport practices with, go to parent and teacher conferences with, etc. I speak to his mother on the phone, we are cordial and i thought she was cool. Now in everything he does i say did you ask your mother to come see you play your game etc. etc. or did you call your mother today, etc.etc. now if he chooses not to what should i do. i even tell him not to call me momma cause I'm not and that he already has one.
me and his mother even had a conversation about it takes a village to raise a child, so i thought we were on the same page.
So she has him for the weekend and was going to take him to his practice. she calls my h2b (hubby 2 b) and asks him "why does the coach thinks Msflygirl is his mother instead of me."
What? first off i don't want your son at all........ second maybe if you take him to the game or practice or just be there and introduce yourself as such there would not be any confusions. i repeat i don't ever introduce myself as this childs mother. i might say STEP mother but usually i say my name.
I AM PISSED OFF. i feel like now i don't even want to be cool or cordial it makes me feel like she wants some type of drama. she is way older than me.
h2b and my friend stated that she maybe feeling guilty because she is not there. but don't take that shit out on me.
What do you guys think, mothers, non mothers, and men. how do i play this? it makes me standoffish from even having a relationship with the child. i think he told her that to manipulate her to feel guilty and be there more. but the boy is going to get an earful because all that does is bring drama.
And should i call and get the baby mama together.
H2B told her not to call him with the BS she knows who she is to him. i feel that but he thinks i am overreacting.